I never see anyone talking about how kids can abuse adults though.
Growing up I saw a lot of adult teachers get bullied by students and it sucked. They would purposely push them to their breaking point until they exploded, yelled, cursed, threw desks, and the ones who didn’t have that kind of reaction would just quit or end up fired because the kids would start rumors. One was because our new math teacher was effeminate so the guys thought “obviously this guy is gay and he’s after our dicks” and if he was ever nice to a male student (which… he was nice and friendly with EVERYONE and was the best teacher we’d had that year) they would start whispering behind me, “yo, look at that, did you see that? He’s flirting with his male students, that’s nasty” and so they made trouble for him.
My mother worked at a Discovery Zone type place when I was little and she would come home and break down crying because groups of little boys would call her names, call her stupid her whole shift.
I had friends in childhood who absolutely abused their parents. They were relentless and mean and hacked them into submission and it made for a lot of awkward moments when I would hang with them, because I couldn’t do anything since… they were my abuser too.
Just because you’re a minor doesn’t mean knives you throw are not sharp and won’t hit someone. The fact that so many kids on this site use their age as a weapon, as a way to say “but nothing I do has any impact because I have no social power” is SCARY and we need to try to make people aware of this kind of stuff from a young age because most people who are like that don’t really realize it and they need guidance and rehabilitation so the cycle can stop. Because those people grow up and have kids and do it to their kids and they don’t learn that it’s not normal or okay, that they cannot deny reality by controlling the people around them.
But sometimes it isn’t always that way, some of those parents were so nice and kind and I considered like family, and they just had absolute evil villains for kids.
Check in with yourselves, guys. Especially right now. There’s a lot of upsetting stuff being shoved in our faces all the time and it makes it hard not to get tunnel vision when our emotions get out of control, especially with the pressure to perform by a lot of social circles on tumblr. And if you’re young and a lot of this is new, pace yourself, you’re learning, and you need to be open to the idea of learning more and know that us being adults doesn’t mean we’re just out of touch boring old farts who don’t know anything. We’ve lived things and we have experience and when we say to you that it’s not okay to tell people who like things you do not like to kill themselves, we’re not “apologists”… we’re the survivors too.
yo this is really important
my piano/choir teacher in 6th grade was only around 20-23 whenever she came to our school, and she only stayed for 2 years because all the kids were so awful. one time she told me that me and a few other of my friends were the only ones who hadn’t said a bad word about her the whole time.
in 4th grade, we got an awesome music teacher. he was in his late 20’s at the time, really chill and easygoing (we were in elementary school). some of the kids would just slowly drive him off the edge until one day he ended up throwing pens across the room out of frustration and anger. everybody was either scared of him or laughed at him, and it kinda made it worse. he left 2 years later and teaches a civilized and nice group of kids now.
kids really can abuse adults. I’ve seen it happen a lot and it’s sad and heartbreaking and overall awful to see because so many people brush it off as “kids being kids.”
In 7th grade or so I had the most delightful Maths/Science teacher (the two were taught by the same guy) and he was always super nice. Like he adored teaching, he brought us snacks sometimes and like really wanted us to do well.
By 8th grade he was a changed man. We had young neo-nazis starting shit. We had kids screaming and throwing shit at him. We had knife fights and I’m 90% certain I remember him straight up being forced into a position where he had to wrestle one of my more violent classmates to the floor. My class had actually driven this calm, cool, great guy (he couldn’t’ve been more than 27 at the time) to actually break down crying in class. As far as I heard he was gone by the time I entered grade 9.
I remember lots of my classmates mocking my math teacher because of her accent, when I was a freshman. She was from Syria, in a mexican school. Little pieces of shit were always imitating her accent and mocking her from getting certain words wrong.
I saw her about four years later and she looked so tired of everything, less cheerful and with a tougher attitude from the beginning. Fortunately she still talks to me calmly and smiling, but it’s awful to know she’s always anxious around thw kids she teaches.
In seventh grade I had a teacher named Ms. Burns. It was only her third year of teaching, and it was her first year of teaching middle school. And the class I had her for?
My fellow classmates were fucking awful to Ms. Burns. They talked over her when she was trying to teach, they made fun of her appearance (said she looked like man and called her a ‘tranny’, or “It Burns” instead of Ms. Burns), and when a few months into the school year, she broke down and screamed at the top of her lungs at the class before sitting down at her desk and crying, they considered it a triumph and laughed about it for weeks.
Being a kid doesn’t exempt you from being a piece of shit, and just because, on the whole, adults have more power than minors doesn’t mean that minors get a free pass on being purposefully cruel to adults. Some of you on this website really need to learn this.
Discipline your goddamn kids.
Seriously doubling down on the last part because this behavior doesn’t form in a fucking vacuum.
Seriously, don’t forget that younger people can abuse, torment, hurt, and even rape other younger people and even adults. A teenager can still drug and rape an adult, they can fake their age with a false ID, and so on. Just because you’re under the age of 18 doesn’t mean that anything you do to other people isn’t your fault, and it especially doesn’t mean that it’s their fault.
When David Bowie died, I saw a lot of people saying awful things about him because years ago some girls used fake IDs to sleep with him – that wasn’t his fault, he thought that they were adults.
It’s not the fault of teachers when you bully them and call them perverts for just being nice to you, until they have a mental breakdown. I had my fair share of awful teachers who did weird ass or horrible shit for no reason (one teacher locked a class in the room and said some very inappropriate sexual stuff while they couldn’t leave), but there were also nice teachers who’s every move was scrutinized for how it could be sexualized.
Living on the shitty estate I live on, I get yelled at on the street by teenagers and kids (and adults) every now and then. It’s usually just slurs that I can shrug off, but don’t get me started on how it’s weird and uncomfortable when some kid starts yelling inappropriate and sexual stuff at you… and you can’t tell them to fuck off because you’re supposed to be the “responsible adult”. I’d say “I don’t know where they learn this crap.” but I remember being a kid, I remember that one kid bringing porn into school, gathering round on the bus, all that shit.
Don’t get me wrong – there are nice kids who politely stop me to ask about my piercings or hair, who are more polite than their shitty parents when we’re trying to pass in the tiny alleyway. But there are also assholes who throw fireworks and flashbangs at people and windows, yelling “Allah Akbar!” as they do because they think it’s hilarious to shout that before damaging somebody’s property.
I get it, you’re a teenager, your hormones are everywhere, you’re frustrated and emotional, you think that you’re grown up enough and that you’re being babied and controlled by the adults in your life, and you’re suspicious of adults because people are constantly shoving “stranger danger” and shit down your throat. And I get that they had to have got it from somewhere – be it distant parents, shitty peers, abusive parents, imitating TV, whatever.
While it’s true that they need help to learn why their behaviour is wrong, they’re still accountable for their actions. I’m writing this comment because I’m tired of people on tumblr acting like everybody under the age of 18 is completely innocent and shouldn’t be held accountable when they send people death threats; I’m tired of people on tumblr blaming and demonizing innocent parties like David Bowie; I’m tired of people on tumblr hiding behind their age, and acting like being under the age of 18 means that the harm they do is okay.
~ Vape
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